Online Couples Course
5 Min. Video Series – The 4 Best
Practices for Making Transformational Relationship Change
4 Best Practices Drive Relationship Change
From years of couples therapy practice, Dr. McCarthy has identified the 4 most powerful relationship skills that couples can practice for just a few minutes every day to achieve real, observable change. These 4 Relationship Best Practice Secrets are taken from Dr. McCarthy’s new approach of working with couples showing an 87% improvement rate in just the first 11 hours of therapy.
Innovative 5 Min. High Impact Videos
So often clients have said to Dr. McCarthy they wish someone could have shown them these principles either in previous marriage counseling or when first walking down the aisle. This motivated him to develop a much more time-effective video course rather than a typical time-consuming one-hour (or more) video and to focus only on the highest impact behaviors that help to directly create rapid change. Dr. McCarthy’s purpose is to make these best practices available to all couples!
What Couples Benefit From This Video Course?
This 5-minute video course series is designed to help all couples make improvement in their relationship regardless of their stage of growth. It is for couples who don’t feel the need for couples therapy or not ready for it. And it is for those who feel they do not have enough time or in situations where one’s a partner resists therapy change. Very importantly, it can also be used by those currently or previously in couples therapy regardless of the therapist’s theoretical approach to enhance and speed up couples therapy progress.
Important Note—Evidence Based Research For Online Courses:
A meta-review of 12 published studies has demonstrated online relationship education programs produce significantly increased relationship satisfaction, communication skills, relationship confidence, positive relationship qualities, and decreased negative relationship qualities. In addition, these programs reduced anxiety and depressive symptoms for people individually and increased health satisfaction as well as overall quality of life. There was no difference related to gender or to those who identified as “distressed.”
-Journal of Marital & Family Therapy (Jan. 2021)
4 Course Series
New 5 Minute Video Course Series: 4 Best Practice Skills For Relationship Transformation
1. Communication
Learning the secrets to overcoming communication problems through using specific skills for showing empathy, open listening, and mutual validation for one another (especially helpful for men).
2. Conflict Resolution
Practice principles grounded in scientific research on most successful couples to reduce conflict through communicating in a softer more respectful way. Learn to use the Softly Specific Method to resolve disagreements and heal deeper resentments causing barriers to greater closeness.
3. Reigniting Closeness & Love Connection
Life stress, being “too busy,” or having too much conflict can easily affect a couple’s level of closeness, romantic feeling, and connection. Learn how to restore a deeper feeling of love through The Four Types of Closeness: (1.) conversational sharing, (2.) mutual shared activities/interests, (3.) physical affection (nonsexual), (4.) and sexual intimacy.
4. Appreciation, Affirmation, and Identifying Love Needs
Learning principles grounded in scientific research with most successful couples for how to intentionally express more positives (compliments), appreciation, and more profound Love Affirmations. And identify most important love needs for each partner to help take the relationship to an entirely new level.
Summary of Learning Objectives
This is not a typical video wasting the viewers time with too much extraneous information. Each video gets straight to the point in describing step-by-step what each partner needs to do every day in interacting with one another. The couple learns very specific actionable skills for how to communicate, resolve conflict, and ignite their love connection in deeper more meaningful ways and to truly transform their relationship!
Video Course Format
This comprehensive 5-min. video course series covers each of the four best practices necessary for making major change in a relationship. Each of the best practice areas will include four 5-minute short videos to be viewed successively over the course of two weeks (total of 20-min.’s video viewing). After one completes the first Best Practice Skill videos one goes to the second Best Practice video set of 4 videos and so on until completing the entire series. Thus, the whole series of 4 Best Practice Areas involves watching 2 short videos per week for 8 weeks.
This gives partners time to practice each set of new skills in day-to-day interactions for a few days between each 5-min. video. A one-page written handout will be provided for each 5-min. video with the exact action steps to apply every day to achieve real relationship change.
Clients in couples therapy with Dr. McCarthy often have said reading his book really helps provide additional understanding and motivation in actively making their needed relationship change. So specific pages from Dr. McCarthy’s two books relevant to each one of the 4 course segments will also be recommended as an additional resource to support and speed up a couples relationship change. Those interested in the video course wanting this added support option should order both books.
The total amount of video time is thus organized in the most time-efficient way to be only 80 min.’s for each couple over the 8 week period of time.
How To Order
Enter your email to receive a 50% discount offer for this video series
Fee: With 50% discount initial promotional offer the course is only $94.00 (original price is $188.00)
Note: This Video series is currently in final stages of production to be completed soon.
**No payment required at this time (you will receive an email when the video course launches with instructions on how to purchase using your discount code)**
Course Series 1
Communication
Learning the secrets to overcoming communication problems through using specific skills for showing empathy, open listening, and mutual validation for one another (especially helpful for men).
Common Communication Problems Addressed
- Feeling misunderstood and not heard
- Failing to really listen and validate what one’s partner is saying
- Feeling not respected and valued
- Not showing enough empathy: quick to give advice on how to “fix” problem
- One or both partners are too defensive
- Difficulty in resolving differences in a mutually satisfying way
What can you expect to learn from this course?
- How to have smooth flowing effective communication—how to truly listen and validate one another. Help each other feel genuinely heard and arrive at mutually satisfying resolutions.
- Learn how to be empathetic (especially men) and emotionally supportive, non-defensive when each has differing opinions, and come to creative solutions when in disagreement.
- Practice the most highly effective communication skills: how to clarify, stay on topic, refrain from assumptions, and validate your partner.
Course Series 2
Conflict Resolution
Practice principles grounded in scientific research on most successful couples to reduce conflict through communicating in softer more respectful way. Learn to use the Softly Specific Method to resolve disagreements and heal deeper resentments causing barriers to greater closeness.
Common Relationship Problems Addressed
- One or both partners being too defensive
- Too frequently expressing self in verbally disrespectful ways using anger, irritation,
impatience, or frustration - Cycles of relationship can involve periods of feeling very good but marked by reoccurring unpleasant conflict
- Underlying resentments may affect depth of emotional closeness, romantic feeling, affection/intimacy
What can you expect to learn from this course?
- Learn how to break the cycle of conflict by discussing openly and respectfully one another’s concerns in non-defensive way.
- Use The Softly Specific Method to share feelings of unhappiness in softer way and avoid making generalized complaints that trigger defensiveness from partner. Empower self by focusing instead on inarguable specific negative behaviors.
- How to stay non-defensive when hearing negative feedback from partner. Learn to remain graciously open and show genuine interest in exploring more specifically what one may have done or said to offend partner.
Course Series 3
Reigniting Closeness & Love Connection
Life stress, being “too busy,” or having too much conflict can easily affect a couple’s level of closeness, romantic feeling, and connection. Learn how to restore a deeper feeling of love through The Four Types of Closeness: (1.) conversational sharing, (2.) mutual shared activities/interests, (3.) physical affection (nonsexual), (4.) and sexual intimacy.
Common Relationship Problems Addressed
- Not enough daily conversational talking and sharing in frequency, depth, or quality
- Failure to take more time to engage in shared activities/interests
- Feeling not enough physical affection in frequency, type, or quality
- Sexual intimacy lacking in frequency or quality
- Underlying resentments affect depth of closeness in any one or all of above areas
What can you expect to learn from this course?
- How to carve out daily time for conversational sharing and how to expand topics of conversation in ways that are relevant and of greatest interest to both partners.
- Partners re-examine how they are engaging in activities of mutual interest to reinforce their relationship connection.
- Learn to openly explore what types of physical affection (nonsexual) each partner desires and make commitment to engage in more affection. Explore and do same for sexual intimacy needs and preferences
Course Series 4
Appreciation, Affirmation, and Identifying Love Needs
Learning principles grounded in scientific research with most successful couples for how to intentionally express more positives (complements), appreciation, and more profound Love Affirmations to help take the relationship to new deeper levels of love connection on a daily basis even with the stress and busyness of life.
Common Relationship Problems Addressed
- Wanting to feel more more deeply desired, valued, and special in the eyes of one’s partner
- Not giving enough daily compliments, positives, and love affirmations to one another (more than just saying “thank you”)
- Partners may say they love one another but don’t take the time to help one another feel more deeply loved and special in the ways each partner truly needs
What can you expect to learn from this course?
- Partners learn the power of communicating more positives/compliments in a relationship to help each other feel more connected, desired, and loved.
- Learn how to explore openly with one another what each partner’s unique needs for feeling deeply loved are and to make commitments to mutually meet those needs.
- How to go beyond expressing just compliments and positives by sharing deeper more profound love affirmations acknowledging how special the relationship or one’s partner is.
How To Order
Enter your email to receive a 50% discount offer for this video series
Fee: With 50% discount initial promotional offer the course is only $94.00 (original price is $188.00)
Note: This Video series is currently in final stages of production to be completed soon.
**No payment required at this time (you will receive an email when the video course launches with instructions on how to purchase using your discount code)**